Are you the type of person that can say, "No." to others? Or are you the type of person that will just continue to give and give to everyone else while putting yourself at the back of the line?
While it is kind to be able to show up for others, sacrificing yourself for the needs of other people will not work forever. It is not sustainable. Eventually, you will wear out and have nothing left to give. Where this leave you? You may feel exhasuted and perhaps also resentful, bitter, and stressed?
Doing things for others seems like the right thing to do - it makes people happy! However, if you are saying, 'Yes." to others, then you are saying, "No." to yourself. This is the biggest thing to consider. So just think about it for a minute... what is the cost of saying, "No." to yourself?
Before you say, "Yes." to someone else, assess your own needs and prioritize them, avoid a kneejerk reaction, and take care of you. This is actually the only way you will be able to show up for others. It seems back wards. But it acutally is not. Take care of you. Make sure your cup is full. Then give to others from this place of abundance, rather than from guilt, obligation, or people pleasing.
Saying "No." requires assertiveness and insight into your goals, needs, and values. Ths is one of the most essential skills that you can develop and you will reap the benefits personally and professionally - increasing your contentment in relationships, improving your sense of satisfaction with productivity, and lead to a sense of contentment and calm.
"If you don't priortize your life, someone else will." - Greg McKeown